Are Presuppositions Sneaky?

A student of mine posted a comment on my blog recently. She noticed I used an example of a presupposition with the relationship between a teacher and student and suggested that maybe I was being sneaky using the example, as if my intention was to persuade her.

It's kind of interesting in life how when people know that I'm an expert in persuasion; they assume I'm using my persuasions skills on them all the time. That's been something that I've struggled with my whole life. People actually say, 'Well, I don't know if I can really trust him, because, after all, he's one of the top persuasion experts.'

This always kind of upset me until finally I just kind of got used to it. I just realized, people are going to think whatever they're going to think.

I operate from a place of integrity and I'm just genuinely myself at all time. It has been a struggle to remain un-jaded. I tend not to have ulterior motives.

Ulterior is what lies beyond what is obvious, evident and apparent. This can be framed as negative, especially if the motive is deceptive or concealed, but ulterior motives don't have to be sneaky.

There are ulterior motives that can be supportive and helpful. In a sense, ulterior simply means 'behind the scenes'. When I use my persuasion skills to serve clients and help them to stay involved with my program, there is no lack of integrity whatsoever. I know that my program can and will help them.

To my student who is so suspicious, I say that I know the people I work with are gaining great insight and value whether I persuade them to work with me or not. I would suggest, you will find the same is true for you.

It is kind of a humorous topic so I thought I would show you a little bit about the inside workings of my mind, how I've dealt with some of those kind of things and how it affects me.

Early in my persuasion training, I would ask the people I was studying with if they were using their persuasion skills on me. I asked them to see how they were making their decisions.

This doesn't mean that I am attempting to persuade my students actively, though my intention, obviously, is to keep them in my program.

My intention is to to help and help and help some more. As long as that is understood then I feel really fulfilled and I believe this is something you might want to look at in your own life because it will come up from time to time and it's helpful to have thought it through so that you know what your views are on the subject.

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Kenrick Cleveland teaches techniques to earn the business of affluent prospects using persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in persuasion techniques.

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