Seven Dating Tips: Online Dating and E-mails

You both winked and he wrote an e-mail saying "What's up?" so now what do you do? You can do more than one thing, but whatever you do, don't write back "What's up with you?"

This is a list of the seven things you should avoid or be sure to do in your e-mails.

Don't wait for the other person to get the conversation going. Take initiative, make it happen. There is no area in your life where it pays to be passive. If you're interested, write him an e-mail saying, "I'm interested in getting to know you. Tell me about the boldest thing you've ever done and I'll tell you mine."

Asking a lot of good questions. Talking too much about yourself is a huge turnoff. Wait to be asked questions before giving your speech "So, about me." He looked at your profile and knows a little about you already, he'll be more interested if you ask him why his favorite author is David Sedaris or why he lived in Japan for so long.

Keep him guessing about you, but not for that long. It's good to keep him intrigued, but if you wait too long to return his e-mail or call he may forget about you and move on to the next match. If you ask him to tell you about the boldest thing you've ever done, be sure to tell him about yours within a few days after he does. In this same vein, if he asks for your number or to meet you, don't wait a week to respond.

Avoid the e-mail love affair. Many people give good e-mail. It's exciting to log into your e-mail account and find three new e-mails from this new, interesting guy. But what happens when you fall for the e-mail version of him, but meet the real him and have zero attraction? I suggest meeting him after the first five or so e-mails. You'll be bummed to lose an e-mail lover you've grown attached to.

Don't copy and paste. As tempting as it is to use the same "about me" e-mail with three potential online matches, it's easy to make mistakes this way. A friend of mine did this and sent the same e-mail to a guy twice AND she forgot to change the name at the top.

Don't write too much. Some men complain that women talk too much and I know from experience that some guys are freaked out by a "chatty Patty." I've seen studies proving that men do, in fact, talk more than women, but I would wait to write a long e-mail until he does, just in case. Keep your e-mails to two short paragraphs until he writes a long e-mail. Once he does, then you'll know he has patience for some chat.

Even if you're not interested, send a follow-up e-mail. Its personal preference, but I think it's nice to get a follow-up e-mail after a first date.

Article Source: http://www.rightbiz.com

About the Author: Sara Musfeldt has a blog filled with dating stories and dating profile tips for everyone. She has also produced an online dating advice to help single people everywhere find love.

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